Working with Difficult People 3 Questions to Help You Turn Your Tormentors into Teachers
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Turning Tormentors into Teachers: Navigating Difficult Work Relationships
Summary: When faced with talks involving a challenging colleague, a project manager at a New Hampshire insurance company often felt frustrated. But he decided to see each encounter as a chance to learn. By shifting his approach, he turned a difficult relationship into a more collaborative one.
Transforming Challenges into Opportunities
Faced with a confrontational employee, the project manager sighed. Every conversation seemed like a battle. Determined to change this dynamic, he decided to approach the meeting with a fresh perspective.
Instead of anticipating conflict, he imagined the employee's intentions as positive, albeit unrefined. He considered aligning with the employee to guide him more effectively. Adjusting their positions in the room to sit side-by-side, he took a deep breath and welcomed the employee.
As expected, the employee launched into complaints about the project. The manager's initial impulse was defensive, but he chose to listen actively. Instead of rebutting, he asked insightful questions about the root of the issues and potential solutions. This approach transformed the atmosphere from adversarial to collaborative. Together, they started addressing project challenges with newfound alignment.
From Tormentor to Teacher
It's natural not to gel with everyone. While some colleagues blend seamlessly with us, others feel out of sync. Working with such individuals can be draining. Yet, these interactions offer learning opportunities. By understanding challenging colleagues, we can reclaim our power and perhaps win an ally.
To turn a tormentor into a teacher, consider these questions:
Who is this person outside work? Consider the multifaceted nature of your colleague. Whether they're a parent, friend, or hobbyist, broadening your perspective can help you see beyond their work persona.
What is their positive intention? Beneath the surface, what do they truly desire? Respect, independence, control, acknowledgment? You might share common goals, even if you pursue them differently.
Why do they behave as they do? Often, people's actions are habitual rather than personal. They may not know how to change. You could guide them toward more effective behaviors, becoming their teacher in the process.
Embracing True Power
Think of someone you find challenging at work. Instead of hoping they'll change, start with yourself. This doesn't imply you're wrong but highlights the need to focus on what you can control?"you.
Remember, you're making these changes for your own benefit. If your happiness depends on others' behavior, you give away your power. By cultivating awareness and making different choices, you regain control of your interactions with challenging people.
The project manager and employee will likely face future conflicts, but their relationship is evolving. Thanks to new strategies, they're finding common ground. We all encounter difficult people?"whether they become tormentors or teachers depends largely on our perspective.
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