Speaking Your Truth to Your Partner
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Speaking Your Truth to Your Partner
Introduction
Mark came to me contemplating a difficult decision?"leaving his wife, Linda. Despite being unhappy in his marriage for some time, he was reluctant to break up their family for the sake of their two children.
Exploring the Relationship
"Mark," I asked, "were you ever in love with Linda?"
"Yes, at the start of our relationship," he admitted.
"What changed?" I inquired.
Mark explained that Linda became insecure when he started his new business, which demanded long hours. Even though he tried to give her attention on weekends, she grew increasingly angry. After their son was born, her unhappiness only seemed to deepen. Her anger was off-putting, and Mark felt a growing distance between them.
"Have you discussed this with her?" I asked.
"No," he replied. "She seems so unhappy; I don’t want to hurt her feelings."
"So how do you manage this?"
"I've shut down and pretended everything is okay," he confessed. "I spend more time at work because I don’t enjoy being at home. Recently, I met another woman I’m attracted to, and I realize something must change."
The Courage to Speak
"Do you think that leaving her would cause less pain than being honest?"
"Leaving means I avoid dealing with her hurt," he rationalized.
"That’s a lack of courage and integrity, Mark," I said. "You have two children to consider. You once loved Linda, and you might again, but honesty is essential. Give Linda a chance to respond to the truth. She might choose to address her anger, or she might not, but she deserves the opportunity. Relationship issues are rarely one-sided; she might have things to say to you, too."
Taking Action
Despite his fears, Mark decided to be honest with Linda. He explained that her anger pushed him away and that he felt blamed and controlled at home. He admitted his attraction to another woman who treated him kindly, something he longed for from Linda. He shared his thoughts about leaving and that I had advised him to be truthful, asking if she would join him in counseling.
At first, Linda was shocked, feeling blindsided. She realized she wasn’t alone in feeling unloved. Predictably, her initial reaction was anger and blame, just as Mark feared. However, he calmly reiterated the need for openness rather than anger if they wanted the truth. Eventually, she listened, and they communicated honestly for the first time in years. Once over the initial shock, Linda was relieved to hear the truth and agreed to counseling.
Finding Understanding
In counseling, Mark learned that Linda was also afraid to be truthful, fearing he would withdraw further. Both had been guarding against fears?"his of her anger, hers of his distance. As they became open to learning from each other, love gradually returned to their relationship.
Conclusion
Often, people withhold their truths to spare their partners pain, but the real intent is usually self-protection from feared reactions. Guarding against pain through anger, withdrawal, or blame only amplifies the pain. In contrast, being open to learning and speaking your truth paves the way for love to flourish.
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