Relationships Taking Care of Yourself in the Moment
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Relationships: Taking Care of Yourself in the Moment
Summary
Maria felt a growing distance in her relationship with her husband, Carl, who desired closeness, yet she struggled to connect. She consulted me to explore this frustration.
The Issue
Maria expressed that Carl often spoke to her in a judgmental way, resembling a parent rather than a partner. This manner of speaking made her feel hurt and withdrawn. She tried addressing it later, but Carl dismissed her concerns, thinking she was overly sensitive and blame-oriented.
The Challenge
Many of us have experienced moments of conflict where we’re unsure of what to say. Later, we reflect on what we wish we had expressed, but by then, it seems too late?"our partner no longer understands our perspective.
A New Perspective
I asked Maria to imagine the part of herself that disliked Carl's tone as a small child. Would she allow Carl to speak to a child that way?
“No, I don’t even let him talk to our children like that. He’s kind and caring with them,” Maria responded, realizing she stood up for her children but not for herself.
Speaking Up
Maria admitted she was unsure of what to say in the moment, typically addressing it later by mentioning his tone. But Carl was unaware, and without real-time feedback, he couldn’t recognize his behavior.
I advised, “You need to respond in the moment for him to hear his own voice. Say, ‘Carl, I dislike that judgmental tone. I don’t want to be around you when you speak that way.’ This gives him a chance to understand and helps you advocate for yourself.”
Self-Awareness and Growth
Maria’s distance from Carl wasn’t just due to his behavior; it stemmed from her own self-abandonment. Blaming Carl was easy, but her feelings were more about not caring for herself.
When Maria began to express herself without blaming Carl, he started to understand her perspective. He wasn’t intentionally parental or judgmental; he simply wasn’t aware. Her honest communication improved their relationship, allowing them to address issues immediately.
The Outcome
By standing up for herself, Maria found that Carl began to respect her more. Some of his previous judgments were actually rooted in his frustration over her lack of self-advocacy with others.
By taking care of herself in the moment, Maria transformed her relationship, proving that self-care and honest communication can bridge emotional gaps.
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