On Finding Mr. Right
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On Finding Mr. Right
Finding Mr. Right
You might think you have a clear picture of what you want in a partner. Perhaps you've even crafted a detailed list of attributes, qualities, and qualifications that your future spouse must meet.
Rethinking Your List
Like many, I also had a checklist. My requirements included an engaging profession (preferably in the arts), a good sense of humor, strong character, and financial stability. Then came the bonuses: over six feet tall, strikingly handsome, and a cat enthusiast. Lastly, my deal breakers: children, challenging exes, bad toupees. I considered myself open-minded, willing to overlook things like thinning hair or a few extra pounds for Mr. Perfect.
But here's the advice: Ditch the list, ladies! Mine nearly caused me to miss out on meeting my husband.
Meeting Tim
Tim and I met on a blind date, arranged by a mutual friend. Both of us, experienced and divorced, knew the dating game well. We settled into a cozy wine bar, exchanging the usual first-date questions. Tim made a solid first impression: nice, attractive, smartly dressed, and courteous. Yet, something seemed off.
Returning to my list, Tim’s "interesting profession" was in finance?"a far cry from my ideal of artistic intrigue. Initially, he seemed more of a listener, lacking the overt humor I sought. Other essential traits like "sterling character" and "financial security" are hard to gauge on a first date. Plus, he had deal breakers?"two teenage sons and a challenging ex-wife.
I finished my glass of Shiraz, politely declined dinner, and went home, thinking of it as just another date.
A Change of Perspective
Thankfully, Tim didn’t adhere to lists. He called and pursued me, even though I joked about him to friends?"questioning who this persistent suit was. His sincerity and determination were unwavering. As he attended literary events with me, I reluctantly got to know him. Over time, I discovered Tim was truly the man of my dreams, despite being different from my fantasy ideal. He is funny, intelligent, incredibly warm, and passionately engaged with his work.
He brought a daughter into my life and made me happier than I ever imagined. Without him, and had I stuck to my list, I’d likely have forgotten about Tim entirely.
Embrace the Possibilities
Remember, lists often exclude rather than include, which isn’t helpful in finding someone wonderful. If your date isn’t as tall, wealthy, or witty as you envisioned, pay attention to his strengths. It’s easier to focus on flaws, but far more rewarding to recognize the positive. Are you ready to risk potential happiness for missing superficial traits? Get to know the individual before you and, most importantly, stay open!
Author
Adrienne Brodeur is the founding editor of Zoetrope: All-Story. She resides in New York City. Visit her website at [www.gotomancamp.com](http://www.gotomancamp.com).
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