Is This Love or Emotional Dependency
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Is This Love or Emotional Dependency?
Exploring the Difference
One of my clients recently faced a challenging question after a breakup:
_"I think I still love her, but is this love or just emotional dependency? It often feels like I can't live without her. When I truly give love, I expect nothing in return, but falling in love seems to be a different energy."_
This introspection touches on a vital distinction between love and emotional dependency.
Understanding Emotional Dependency
Falling in love can arise from two inner states. When it stems from the wounded self?"the ego?"you may be more in love with the way someone makes you feel rather than the person themselves. You might rely on them for your self-worth and happiness. If they meet your needs, you believe you're in love. However, this isn't genuine love; it’s emotional dependency. You feel you can't live without them because you're not providing love to yourself or others. An internal emptiness remains, as you expect someone else to fill that void.
Genuine Love as a Loving Adult
When you experience love as a fulfilled adult, your needs in a relationship transform. As a loving adult, you have cultivated self-worth and love from within, possibly through a connection with a Divine Source. You don’t need someone to make you feel valuable; you share love because you are already full of it. This desire comes from an overflow of love rather than a need for it.
Choosing the Right Partner
The type of partner you seek changes depending on whether you approach relationships as a wounded self or a loving adult. When based on neediness, you might choose someone to fulfill your emotional void. However, both parties often end up disappointed, blaming each other for unmet needs.
In contrast, if you've worked on your inner self and embraced Divine Love, you'll naturally be drawn to someone who also embodies this wholeness. The relationship becomes about mutual sharing rather than seeking to fill gaps.
Transforming Emotional Dependency
If attachment feels overwhelming, it’s essential to learn self-love. By becoming the person to yourself that you wish another to be, you can shift from being in need to being in love. Love others for who they truly are, not what they can provide for you. This approach allows you to give love from the heart for its own joy, feeling fulfilled through giving rather than receiving.
By focusing on self-growth and nurturing your inner world, you can cultivate genuine love that enriches both yourself and those around you.
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