How To Kill That Self-Destructive Monster Called Jealousy
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How to Conquer the Self-Destructive Monster of Jealousy
Jealousy is a surefire way to undermine your dignity, erode your self-esteem, and can ultimately wreak havoc on your life. It’s one of the fastest ways to damage a relationship or marriage, fueling anxiety, anger, loneliness, and fear. The quickest way to defeat jealousy starts with you, not your partner.
The Story of Les
Les came to me a few months ago, gripped by fear that his wife was having an affair. Their relationship had been rocky, and she was spending more time away, supposedly with friends. Les didn’t believe her. He spent his evenings at home, anxiously calling her and even driving around trying to catch a glimpse of her.
When she did come home, he bombarded her with relentless questioning. Eventually, she shut down completely, and their communication almost disappeared. The relationship seemed to be on the brink of collapse.
Les looked tired, stressed, and unhealthy, showing all the classic signs of someone consumed by jealousy. His continued distrust only pushed his wife further away, eroding the foundation of their once-strong relationship.
Determined to change, Les was open to working with me to shift his behavior and mindset.
Understanding the Impact of Jealousy
Jealousy is a powerful force that dismantles dignity and self-esteem, leading to a life of turmoil. It clouds judgment with anxiety, anger, loneliness, and fear. When jealousy takes hold, rational thinking fades away.
Being in a relationship with a jealous partner is equally challenging. It can transform a lover into an adversary. Trust and attractiveness are replaced by suspicion and hostility.
Why Are People Jealous?
In my experience, the root cause of jealousy is often a breakdown in communication. This usually happens for two reasons:
1. A change occurs that stifles open and honest communication.
2. One or both partners withhold information due to anger, hurt, or thoughtlessness.
These scenarios create communication "black holes," easily filled with fear and fantasy. Jealousy raises tough questions: “Has she found someone better? Is she cheating? Will she leave me for someone richer or younger?”
Assumptions spiral out of control: “She’s with her boss because they’re having an affair.” “She didn’t answer because she’s with someone else.” Such thoughts make life unnecessarily harsh.
Overcoming Jealousy
Communicate
If jealousy is consuming you, communication is essential. Avoid assuming the worst and start asking questions. Reopen the lines of communication, but don’t be aggressive or defensive.
Develop Self-Respect
Stop seeking constant reassurance. Respect from your partner starts with self-respect. Control your fears and paranoia to strengthen your self-esteem.
Trust and Reflect
Remind yourself why you and your partner are together. A relationship is only viable if trust exists. If trust is irreparably broken, it might be time to move on.
Remember, jealousy is demeaning and indicates weakness and fear. The fastest way to conquer it involves improving your self-esteem. When you build confidence, jealousy has no choice but to fade away.
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