Fear Of Commitment
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Understanding the Fear of Commitment
Overview
In my role as a counselor, I frequently encounter individuals grappling with a profound fear of commitment. Despite expressing a desire for a loving relationship, they often find themselves choosing unsuitable partners.
Take Susan, for example. At 38, she needed guidance because she was involved in two relationships simultaneously and felt she had to choose. Yet, she struggled to decide which partner was right for her.
Susan’s Dilemma
Susan had been with Shawn for two years. Although charming and fun-loving, Shawn would withdraw emotionally for lengthy periods. He was also clear about not wanting children?"something Susan deeply valued. Additionally, Shawn faced financial instability.
In contrast, Calvin, whom Susan met later, was emotionally present, financially stable, and shared her desire for children. Despite recognizing that Calvin was a better match, Susan couldn’t let go of Shawn.
Why? Susan realized she was scared of commitment. With Shawn, there was no pressure for a committed relationship, keeping her fear at bay. But why was commitment so terrifying?
The Root of the Fear
Susan discovered she was afraid of truly falling in love, as it seemed to threaten her freedom. To her, being in love meant losing autonomy?"feeling suffocated at the idea of constantly being with a partner and sacrificing personal time with friends.
Similarly, another client, Douglas, 34, faced the same challenge. Although kind-hearted, he believed caring for himself was selfish. This led to resentment and relationship breakdowns, as he felt obliged to sacrifice his desires.
Both Susan and Douglas held the false belief that loving someone meant neglecting their own needs. They misunderstood what it meant to be selfish.
Redefining Selfishness
I offered them a new perspective:
- Selfishness is expecting others to surrender their desires for you, or not supporting their self-care.
- True love involves caring for your partner without expecting something in return and without fear of their negative reactions.
Giving up one's self is a form of control?"a strategy to gain approval rather than acting out of genuine love. A fulfilling relationship requires prioritizing your own truth, integrity, and freedom first.
Healing the Fear
The key to overcoming a fear of commitment lies in self-care. When you nurture yourself with love, you become capable of sharing abundant love with your partner.
By focusing first on loving yourself, you can create a healthy foundation for commitment in any relationship.
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