Date Lying
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Date Lying: Unveiling the Truth in Early Relationships
Introduction
I recently received a message from a reader who was intrigued by my article, "Why Do People Lie?" He expressed an interest in a similar discussion focusing on the lies women tell, particularly during the early stages of dating. This piqued my curiosity, and while I can't claim to know everything about women's lies, I decided to explore the topic of date lying from a broader perspective.
Why Do We Lie?
The reader who contacted me was frustrated by common excuses such as, "I have to go," "I'm busy," or "I'm on another call." He believed these white lies were misguided attempts to spare someone's feelings without rejecting them outright. This aligns with cultural conditioning that often teaches women to avoid hurting men's feelings by telling small, seemingly harmless lies.
Honest Communication
I've often advised women who aren't interested in dating someone to communicate honestly but kindly. Phrases like, "I don't feel a romantic connection," or "There doesn't seem to be chemistry between us," can convey the truth without being harsh. One client handled a situation by saying, "Your energy doesn't feel respectful toward me, so I'm not drawn to meet you." Surprisingly, this led to a positive conversation and a subsequent date when the man appreciated her honesty.
The Perspective on Men's Lies
In dating scenarios, men often face less pressure to say no, as they're typically the ones initiating calls. However, they also engage in deceit, albeit differently. For example, a client of mine, a psychotherapist, was impressed when a man she dated mentioned being in therapy. She later discovered it was court-mandated after his violent behavior toward his pregnant ex-wife. His omission was a strategic way to manipulate her perception.
Men might also lie by overindulging in flattery and attention to win a woman over. Once she's emotionally hooked, the charm often fades, revealing that his initial behavior was insincere. At one of my intensive workshops, a married man confessed to easily captivating women by mirroring back what they wanted to hear, despite having no intention of committing to them.
Date Lying: A Shared Trait
Lying in dating is common for both genders. Generally, people avoid hurting others with the truth of their feelings. It's not uncommon for individuals to exhibit a façade of charm initially, only to later exploit the relationship for their own needs.
Protecting Yourself from Deceit
How can you protect yourself from being deceived in dating? Trust your intuition and speak your truth. Focus on self-validation rather than seeking approval from others. Remember, when someone lies, it often reflects more about them than about you.
By staying attuned to your own emotions and needs, you can navigate the dating world with authenticity and resilience.
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