Commitment Phobia Are You Commitment Phobic
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Commitment Phobia: Are You Commitment-Phobic?
Summary:
Marilee, one of my clients, confessed her struggle with commitment phobia. "I'd love a loving relationship," she said during a session, "but I don't want to give up my freedom. I cherish my work, friends, and the freedom to travel and learn. I don't want to be restricted or cause someone hurt because of my choices. It's not worth the hassle."
Similarly, Marcus shared his experience. "When I'm single, I yearn for a relationship. But once I'm in one, I feel trapped. I resent the limitations and end up leaving, only to crave another relationship. It's a cycle."
Understanding Commitment Phobia:
Commitment phobia often stems from the belief that loving someone makes us responsible for their emotions rather than our own. This leads to self-imposed restrictions aimed at controlling the other person's feelings, ultimately causing resentment.
Marilee's Experience:
"Why not find someone who also values work and freedom?" I asked Marilee during a call.
"I can't imagine that," she replied. "Every man I've dated wants more time with me than I can give. Am I choosing the wrong people?"
"No," I said. "But you're not asserting your need for freedom from the start. You compromise early on, staying up late or feigning interest to avoid hurting him. When you start being honest, he's surprised and hurt. Until you’re willing to risk losing a relationship rather than losing yourself, you'll continue to feel trapped. It's your own fears and beliefs that limit you."
Marcus's Journey:
Marcus realized he struggled to assert himself in relationships. Whenever a partner wanted something, he obliged, fearing rejection or causing upset. This led to feelings of entrapment.
Marcus's fears came from two beliefs:
1. He felt responsible for his partner's feelings and believed he was bad if he upset her.
2. He feared rejection if she felt hurt.
By continually sacrificing his needs, Marcus harbored resentment, leading to eventual breakups.
Achieving Balance:
To maintain personal freedom and enjoy a committed relationship, we must own our feelings and be willing to risk losing someone rather than ourselves. Overcoming commitment phobia involves strengthening your sense of self to stand firm amid potential anger or loss from others.
If you desire a loving relationship, invest in nurturing a strong inner self that champions your personal freedom.
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