Codependent Relationships Takers and Caretakers
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Codependent Relationships: Understanding Takers and Caretakers
In my 37 years as a relationship counselor, I've seen a recurring dynamic: the attraction between takers and caretakers. This is a common pattern that often leads to difficulties in relationships.
Understanding Takers
Takers typically display narcissistic traits, focusing heavily on themselves and craving constant attention and admiration. They seek love, approval, and even sex using methods like anger, blame, criticism, and emotional drama. Their need for control is driven by a fear of being controlled, which can manifest as procrastination, withdrawal, or indifference.
Takers often believe: "You are responsible for my happiness. It’s your job to ensure I’m okay."
Understanding Caretakers
Caretakers, conversely, feel responsible for others' happiness, believing, "If I take care of your needs, I’ll receive the approval I need." This often leads them to neglect their own needs, giving out of fear rather than genuine love.
Both takers and caretakers struggle to take responsibility for their own feelings and well-being. Takers overtly seek attention, while caretakers subtly aim for approval through compliance and self-sacrifice.
Common Issues
Since neither partner attends to their personal needs, frustration, resentment, and feelings of being unloved can arise. In these dynamics, partners expect the other to fulfill needs they should be addressing themselves.
Codependent relationships?"whether involving two takers, two caretakers, or a combination?"tend to encounter the same problems: anger, resentment, emotional distance, and a lack of intimacy.
Healing the Relationship
There's hope for healing these dynamics. When individuals commit to personal growth, their relationships can transform. Techniques like the Inner Bonding process (available at [www.innerbonding.com](http://www.innerbonding.com)) help partners take full responsibility for their emotions.
A key to a healthy relationship is taking 100% responsibility for your feelings. This involves being aware of your emotions and understanding how your actions, beliefs, and self-treatment contribute to these feelings. Shifting the blame onto others only creates more issues.
Why not start today by focusing on yourself? After all, you’re the only one you can truly change.
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