Weaving the Brokenness - Healing the Wound of Mother Abandonment
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Weaving the Brokenness: Healing the Wound of Mother Abandonment
Summary
My journey is one of many on the subject of mother-child abandonment. Countless stories echo this experience of being abandoned as a child. During my book tour for "Don't Call Me Mother: Breaking the Chain of Mother-Daughter Abandonment," audiences weep as I recount my childhood's loss and loneliness. They applaud my fight to find myself and craft a better life.
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My daughter embraces me, her kind brown eyes full of warmth. Her pregnant belly rests against me, and I feel a surge of emotion. She's expecting a baby girl, who will carry the middle name Joy, like mine. She'll be my first granddaughter and my second grandchild.
I was named Joy by my great-grandmother, Blanche, the mother of my grandmother Lulu, who spent much of her youth with Blanche's mother. Lulu, in her youth, abandoned her daughter Josephine, who then left me at four with her mother. Such a legacy!
Looking at my daughter, visions of my foremothers fill my mind?"my beautiful yet distant mother and my intelligent, boundary-defying grandmother. I recall their fierce arguments, flying dishes during my mother's visits, and my grandmother's deathbed, where no forgiveness was found. My mother’s denial of me was lifelong, and I chased her love until her passing.
I managed to break this abandonment cycle, yet I carry the memories of these vibrant but troubled women. I remain the last witness to this legacy. We are the first mother-daughter generation to share love, apologies, and forgiveness. I am grateful daily for this transformation.
Neither my grandmother nor mother welcomed grandchildren. My children were rejected, and my mother wanted them to conceal their identity. Witnessing her pass this poison to my children shattered me. While I’d grown accustomed to her rejection, watching her instruct my children to deny their lineage was too much. I never sought her acceptance again. Acceptance of her inability to change was necessary.
These patterns repeated. When my grandmother received news of my birth, she dismissed it with, “So the brat is born.” Though she eventually raised me, feelings of being on the edge of acceptance lingered deeply.
This story of mother-child abandonment is just one of many. At my book readings, people relate with tears to my narratives of loss and solitude, and celebrate my success in finding a meaningful life. Their tears often reflect their own unhealed childhood wounds. Despite my painful history, it's rewarding to offer hope to others.
If my story resonates with you, consider these healing steps:
Healing Abandonment
1. Remind Yourself:
- It was not your fault.
- You were not a bad child.
- Your mother may not have realized the impact on you.
- You deserve love.
2. Create Joy and Beauty Now:
- Surround yourself with supportive friends and loved ones.
- Nurture your body with good food.
- Celebrate yourself with birthday parties and other moments.
- Build your own family, whether it's biological or chosen.
- Treasure each day's unfolding.
3. Seek Healing Help:
- Find a therapist who understands how the past affects the present.
- Write your story from your perspective.
- Include family photos in your narrative.
- Research and write your mother’s story, illustrated with photos.
4. Use Visualization and Meditation:
- Meditate daily in a quiet space for at least 10 minutes.
- Read inspiring books that encourage self-love and acceptance.
- Share your healing journey with others.
By embracing these steps, you can embark on a journey to weave together the fragments of your past and create a life filled with meaning and joy.
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