Six Repair Tools For Your Marriage
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Six Essential Tools to Repair Your Marriage
Introduction
Rudy and Marjorie were on the brink of divorce. After 12 years of marriage, their frequent arguments often led to emotional disengagement. They ended up ignoring each other for days at a time.
While they each felt a longing for connection, they couldn’t communicate their feelings, caught in a standoff waiting for the other to act. This emotional distance is a common issue in marriages: a lack of skills to mend the damage caused by conflict. Research indicates that the ability to repair and recover distinguishes successful marriages from those that fall apart.
By developing effective repair skills, couples can navigate past mistakes and heal emotional hurts. Here are six tools to help foster recovery and restore harmony in your relationship.
Repair Tool #1: Apologize
A genuine, heartfelt apology can work wonders. If your partner sees you as someone who never admits to being wrong, acknowledging your faults can be transformative.
Try saying: “I’m sorry; I apologize for what I did. It was really foolish, and I don’t know what got into me.”
Repair Tool #2: Confide Your Feelings
Let your partner see what’s beneath your anger?"such as fear or insecurity. Sharing these feelings can change the way your partner responds, fostering understanding and intimacy.
Expressions like: “I was really scared for our daughter; I didn’t mean to hurt you; I just lost my cool,” can create closeness.
Repair Tool #3: Acknowledge Their Perspective
You don’t have to agree with your partner’s viewpoint, but acknowledging it can reduce tension. It shows empathy and understanding of their perspective.
Say something like: “I can see what you mean; I never looked at it that way.”
Repair Tool #4: Accept Responsibility
Conflicts are rarely one-sided. Recognizing your contribution to the problem demonstrates openness and readiness to communicate.
Statements such as: “I shouldn’t have done that; we both made mistakes; I understand why you reacted this way,” can be powerful.
Repair Tool #5: Find Common Ground
Focus on shared goals rather than differences. For example, both might agree on wanting to raise healthy children, even if parenting approaches differ.
Try saying: “We share the same goal here; while we don’t agree on methods, we both want the same outcome.”
Repair Tool #6: Commit to Change
Promises mean little without actions to back them up. Demonstrate your commitment through concrete steps.
Say: “I promise to wake up earlier; I’ll call if I’m running late; I’ll limit myself to two drinks at the party.”
By integrating these tools into your relationship, you can navigate disagreements more effectively and build a stronger, more resilient bond.
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