Marriage Counseling Use the Waiter Rule to Evaluate a Date or Partner
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Marriage Counseling: How the Waiter Rule Can Help Evaluate a Partner
Summary:
Discover how the "waiter rule" can provide valuable insights into your partner's character and protect your relationship.---
Introduction:
During my college years, I waited tables and tended bar. Despite my academic background in human behavior and psychology, I often felt I learned more about people through these experiences. One memorable encounter involved me accidentally spilling an ice cream drink on a customer's skirt. Her reaction was intense and humiliating. In contrast, I recall a kind man who remained composed despite numerous issues with his order.Understanding the Waiter Rule:
Recently highlighted in an article from USA Today, the way someone treats service staff can reveal much about their character. Office Depot CEO Steve Odland, who also waited tables as a teenager, believes you can gauge a person’s character by how they treat a waiter. He’s not alone in this observation.Raytheon CEO Bill Swanson also champions the Waiter Rule. According to him, someone who is nice to you but rude to a waiter isn't truly a nice person. He first noticed this when he witnessed a dining companion become irate because a restaurant didn’t stock a particular wine.
Swanson warns against those with a situational value system, whose behavior shifts based on the perceived status of the person they're interacting with. Be particularly cautious of individuals who are dismissive of people in subordinate roles.
The Waiter Rule in Dating:
A survey of 2,500 individuals by "It’s Just Lunch," a professional dating service, found that being rude to waitstaff ranked as the worst dining etiquette. Interestingly, some women reportedly ask waiters about their date's tipping habits to glean insights into their financial attitudes and other tendencies.The Waiter Rule can extend beyond dining, applying to interactions with bellmen, hotel maids, clerks, and secretaries. This behavior often offers a clearer picture of someone’s character than any initial charm.
Why the Waiter Rule Matters:
The Waiter Rule serves as a reliable indicator of character because it isn’t a behavior easily adapted or concealed. It often reflects upbringing and values. How a potential partner treats a waiter can hint at how they might treat you.Warning Signs to Watch For:
- Playing the Power Card: Phrases like “I could buy this place” reveal an obsession with power rather than compassion.- Having a Short Fuse: This attitude often signals a lack of collaboration and uncontrolled ego.
- Being Overly Demanding: Indicates a micro-manager who may be critical rather than supportive.
- Speaking Condescendingly: Suggests a belief in superiority over others.
- Making Public Scenes: Displays poor manners and potentially faulty judgment.
- Switching Charm On and Off: Shows situational values and a lack of consistent ethics.
- Constantly Looking Around: A sign of distraction, suggesting disengagement.
- Being a Poor Tipper: Reflects ignorance of the hard work in service industries; a fair tip is 15%, with 20% or more for exceptional service.
Conclusion:
Consider the Waiter Rule as a tool when evaluating a relationship. It might save you from potential heartache in the future. Dining out could be your best predictor of compatibility.You can find the original non-AI version of this article here: Marriage Counseling Use the Waiter Rule to Evaluate a Date or Partner.
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