Making Marriage Work Part 5
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Making Marriage Work: Part 5
Introduction
In the final section of our five-part series on making marriage work, Joan realizes that taking loving action for herself?"not relying on Justin to make her happy?"creates the closeness and intimacy she desires.
Article Summary
Previously, we explored the fears of rejection and engulfment that often cause relationship issues. We also outlined a simplified version of the Six-Step Healing Process of Inner Bonding:
1. Willingness
2. Choosing the intent to learn
3. Dialoguing with feelings
4. Connecting with your Higher Power
5. Taking loving action
6. Evaluating the action
Recap of Steps
In Part 1, we discussed being open to feelings and taking responsibility for them instead of resorting to controlling behaviors. In Part 3, we focused on choosing the intent to learn, using Joan and Justin’s marriage as a case study. In Part 4, we explored how Joan used Steps 3 and 4 to uncover her beliefs and behaviors causing her pain.
Taking Loving Action
In this final part, Joan embraces Step 5?"taking loving action. She stops nagging Justin and starts prioritizing her happiness. Instead of waiting for Justin, she plans dinners with her girlfriends. When she returns, she’s genuinely happy, and Justin appreciates this change in her demeanor.
Joan signs up for a dance class, resumes playing the piano, and indulges in her beloved mystery novels. She stops believing that Justin’s work habits reflect his love for her. As Joan focuses on her happiness, she moves into Step 6?"tuning into her feelings. She notices a shift from anxiety and resentment to happiness and peace, regardless of Justin’s presence.
Transforming the Relationship Dynamic
To Joan’s surprise, Justin reduces his work hours. Her inner guidance proves true: Justin does love her but finds it hard when she’s needy and resentful. By caring for herself, Joan changes their relationship dynamic without even discussing it with Justin. Her fear of rejection diminishes as she learns to value herself.
Although Justin hasn’t done the inner work to fully heal his fears, Joan’s loving behavior eases his anxieties. He feels more inclined to be with her, as he’s no longer triggered by negativity. If Justin embraced Inner Bonding, he could further address his fears, but Joan accepts she cannot control his personal journey.
Looking Ahead
Had Justin continued working long hours and shown no interest in a closer relationship, Joan might have eventually considered leaving. However, many leave relationships too soon. The decision to leave should come after developing a strong sense of self-worth and practicing self-care. If a partner remains distant after significant inner work, leaving may be a consideration.
Often, it takes just one partner to shift a dysfunctional relationship dynamic. Before concluding that a marriage is beyond repair, try practicing the Six Steps of Inner Bonding. You might be amazed by the transformation!
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