Love Means Appreciating the Whole Person
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Love Means Embracing the Whole Person
Summary:
Everyone has flaws, and often these are just the flip side of their strengths. What does this mean for relationships?---
Article Body:
Liz was fuming as she angrily stuffed items into her bag, slamming drawers shut. "What’s his problem?" she raged. "The rent’s late again, and all he says is, ‘Don’t worry, it’ll be okay.’ I’m fed up! Whether it’s the baby running a fever or the electric bill going unpaid, his response is always the same. When I got married, I thought I’d have someone to share my burdens. Doesn’t he even care?"
Meanwhile, Barry was exasperated. "Why does every little thing make Michelle burst into tears?" he pondered. "I was just joking. Even my sisters didn’t react like this. Why is she so sensitive? Every serious conversation ends with her crying, and I’m tired of being made out to be the bad guy. This isn’t what I imagined when we got married."
Both Liz and Barry seem to have valid grievances. Liz’s husband, Mike, is too laid-back, while Barry’s wife, Michelle, is overly sensitive. As these issues persist, Liz and Barry start questioning if they married the right person.
Before these thoughts take root, it would be wise for both to look back at why they fell in love in the first place:
Liz has always been somewhat anxious. During school, exams gave her headaches. She'd become a nervous wreck waiting for college replies, calling the admissions office twice daily. Despite knowing she was overly anxious, she felt helpless to change.
Meeting Mike was a revelation. His calm, easygoing nature brought her comfort and relaxation. By the time they got engaged, Liz was certain Mike’s presence would always make her feel secure.
Barry, though fond of his parents, wanted a different dynamic at home. His parents weren’t always in sync, and his mother, while talented, lacked sensitivity. As he pondered marriage, he prioritized finding a sensitive partner. When he met Michelle, her profound sensitivity stood out. She knew what to say and when, and Barry admired this deeply. By their engagement, Barry felt he’d found someone who truly understood him.
So, what went wrong? Nothing.
Yes, nothing. Liz and Barry got exactly what they sought. Yet, they were unaware of a crucial rule that could transform their lives:
Recognize that what you love and what frustrates you are two sides of the same coin.
This truth bears repeating: What you appreciate and what you don’t are intertwined.
No one is perfect. Often, faults are merely the reverse of positive traits. A relaxed person might overlook pressing issues, and someone deeply sensitive might need careful handling.
In relationships, especially marriage, it’s vital to appreciate the whole person and accept that cherished qualities may have unappealing aspects requiring adjustments. The key is to refocus your perspective.
For Liz, this means valuing Mike’s calming influence more than his carefree attitude. For Barry, it entails appreciating Michelle’s sensitivity while being mindful of her emotional fragility.
Mike and Michelle have responsibilities too. Mike should remember that thanks to Liz, they stay organized. Michelle should remind herself that Barry’s teasing is seldom intended to hurt.
If both partners learn to appreciate each other as whole individuals, their marriages will be stronger and more enduring.
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