Is Love Really Blind
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Is Love Really Blind?
Having been married for 30 years?"both happily and sometimes less so?"I've often pondered whether love is truly blind. Upon reflection, I find myself believing it is. How else could we have persevered through the tough times in our relationship? Logic might suggest we’d have parted ways by now. My next question is whether this blindness in love is beneficial.
I discovered some fascinating insights in W.C. Compton's book, An Introduction to Positive Psychology, particularly in a section titled "Is Love Really Blind?" This article draws from Compton’s work along with my own thoughts.
Often, our perceptions of our partners are not entirely accurate. We hold on to what are known as positive romantic illusions, which explain why we remain unaware of our partners’ faults and remain so captivated by them.
While these illusions may fade over time, they can also grow stronger, albeit taking on different forms. If these illusions completely vanish when marital problems arise, it might lead to a breakup. Fortunately, they often diminish but don't entirely disappear, helping us weather storms in our relationships.
In the best scenarios, marriages remain strong despite challenges that might break weaker relationships. We become more willing to accept our partners’ apparent faults and quirks. But why does this happen?
Research shows that couples who idealize their partner’s attributes, maintain exaggerated beliefs about their influence over the relationship, or hold overly optimistic views about their future together tend to be happier. Their relationships are also more stable and durable.
From these observations, I conclude the following:
- Positive romantic illusions help explain why we choose our partners over others.
- These illusions enable us to endure difficult times and adverse conditions.
- Maintaining a biased positive view of our partner can strengthen and even enhance the relationship.
- There is mutual reinforcement of the positive romantic illusions partners have for each other.
- People are more committed to spouses who view them positively.
However, if stress starts straining the relationship, these illusions might begin to crumble, revealing truths about our partners' qualities we may have ignored. Without these illusions, the relationship can deteriorate rapidly.
Overall, maintaining positive romantic illusions appears to be beneficial for couples. This mindset allows them to remain in love and continue enjoying the joys of romantic relationships.
References:
- [Stress: The Silent Killer](http://www.succezz.com/StresstheSilentKiller.html)
- [How to Be Happy](http://www.succezz.com/How2BHappy.html)
- [7 Ways to Live Life to the Max](http://www.succezz.com/S2/7WaystoLiveLiftotheMax2.html)
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