Confide For Less Anger In Your Marriage
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Confide for Less Anger in Your Marriage
Summary
Jose and Juanita have been married for 17 years and love each other deeply. However, they have a recurring conflict: the bedroom temperature. Juanita prefers it cold, while Jose likes it warm. Each night, this issue sparks a disagreement. When Juanita opens the windows before bed, Jose often follows and closes them. Let's explore what this reveals about their relationship and how they might address the problem.
A Common Conflict
Scene: Juanita leaves the room and hears Jose shutting the windows she just opened.
Juanita: "I can't sleep unless the windows are open. You know this, yet you close them every night to make me miserable. You're being selfish."
Jose: "This is my house too. Why should I freeze? It's so cold in here. Are you trying to make me sick? No reasonable person would want it this cold."
Is This a Solvable Problem?
For some, a compromise might work: agree on a specific room temperature. Unfortunately, for Jose and Juanita, the issue is deeper.
Why This Problem Persists
1. Power Struggle: It's no longer about the temperature but about who wins.
2. Emotional Ties: Juanita's need for fresh air may be linked to childhood issues. Denying her air makes her panic.
The Power of Confiding
Let's reimagine their conversation with empathy and assertive communication, focusing on understanding each other's feelings.
Juanita could say: "I feel upset because I want to be comfortable at night. I wonder why I always have to give in when I work hard too. Maybe I'm being selfish, but I wish you'd consider my needs."
Jose could say: "I love you and want you to be comfortable, but it's too cold for me to sleep. We both deserve a good night's rest. Let's discuss this calmly."
Communication Tips
1. Share Feelings: Discuss not just the issue but also your emotions and thoughts.
2. Focus on Communication: Reflect on how you discuss the issue.
3. Prioritize Happiness Over Being Right: Sometimes it's better to be happy than to win.
4. Show Love and Willingness to Solve: Let your partner know you care enough to work together on resolving the issue.
By taking time to cool down and speak from the heart, couples like Jose and Juanita can work through conflicts more effectively and strengthen their bond.
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