Controlling Behavior How Do You Attempt to Control
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Understanding Controlling Behavior: How Do You Attempt to Control?
Summary:
Controlling behavior involves attempts to manage your own emotions, influence how others perceive and treat you, or determine outcomes. It's a survival mechanism we've all learned in various forms.
Keywords:
dominance, controlling others, overbearing personality
Exploring Controlling Behavior
Controlling behavior is about trying to manage your own emotions, how others view and treat you, or the results of situations. We all develop methods of control throughout our lives as part of our survival instincts.
Your family environment might have influenced how you try to control situations. For instance, if anger and criticism were common in your upbringing, you might replicate these behaviors now. Alternatively, you might respond to these behaviors with compliance, striving to be the "good" child, prioritizing others' needs over your own. This is known as care-taking as a form of control.
Conversely, you might resist others' attempts to control you, viewing independence as crucial. If procrastination is a struggle, it could signify that resistance is how you maintain control.
Withdrawal is another form of control, where shutting others out protects against their influence. This can extend to controlling your emotions through addictions to substances or activities like food, alcohol, work, or gambling.
Avoiding feelings by staying in your head rather than your heart is another strategy, leading to inner emptiness. This void can pull at others' energy, seeking the love you deny yourself.
Most people combine these strategies. You might care for others hoping to earn their approval, then turn to anger when it doesn’t work. You might comply to a degree, then resist further attempts to control you. Alternatively, you might unleash anger when others try to control you, only to give in to avoid conflict. Some may appear giving but secretly seek others' love and approval.
These behaviors aim to protect from pain?"like rejection, engulfment, or failure. Yet, as adults, these behaviors are often the source of our distress. Anger, compliance, procrastination, or withdrawal can leave you feeling empty and isolated, as these are self-abandoning actions. Controlling behavior isn't loving to yourself or others.
The Path to Self-Love
We've all heard you cannot truly love others until you love yourself. Loving yourself involves focusing on what genuinely benefits you and fills your heart with peace, joy, and self-worth. It’s about constantly asking, "What is truly in my best interest right now?" It’s never beneficial to control others or rely on them to fill your emptiness, nor is it ever healthy to harm yourself or others.
Make it a habit to ask throughout the day, "What is in my highest good right now?" The answers will guide you toward taking loving actions. This simple shift in mindset can transform your life.
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