Don t argue - Ask questions
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Don’t Argue ?" Ask Questions
Summary
When your goal is to find a solution and achieve a win/win outcome, arguing is not the way to go. The most effective path to a collaborative solution is to ask questions.
Article Body
The saying “It takes two to tango” applies just as well to arguments. It’s impossible to argue with someone who doesn’t engage. If you’re aiming for a win/win resolution, arguing won’t help. Instead, asking questions is your best strategy for reaching a collaborative conclusion.
In coaching, we learn to ask questions so that individuals can articulate solutions in their own words. Coaches don’t ask to hear the answers themselves; they ask so clients can understand their own responses. While I might know the answer, it’s more impactful for clients to arrive at it themselves. This approach works well in arguments too. If solving the issue is your goal, asking insightful questions fosters solutions agreeable to both sides.
As an adjunct faculty member, I’ve realized that arguing with students about grades is futile. Students often believe they’re right and I’m mistaken?"a classic setup for arguments. By asking questions like “What do you think your grade should be?” or “How would you grade the paper if you were the professor?” students start seeing the situation differently. Usually, this leads to them accepting the grade or understanding why it was given. Questions help them work through the problem with a new perspective.
I’ve found this approach useful in various conflicts, such as when placing a custom order at a local hardware store. After following the electrical department’s instructions to take my order to the cashier, I was met with confusion. The head cashier, Gloria, insisted I was wrong and needed to visit another department. Though I showed her the instructions, she wasn’t interested. Rather than argue, I posed questions, starting with, “Gloria, how are we going to resolve this?” Remaining calm and focused allowed us to get the order placed without conflict. Questions kept the situation cool and goal-focused.
If you’re not interested in having an argument, avoid defending your position. Instead, focus on asking questions. This approach reduces tension and allows both parties to view the problem from a different angle. Even if you’re sure of the solution, others are more receptive if they discover it themselves.
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