Why Do We Hurt Those We Love Most And How To Stop This
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Why Do We Hurt the Ones We Love Most and How to Stop
Summary:
We all need energy to survive and thrive. When we rely on others for this energy, we become entangled in struggles, as human energy is limited. It's essential for each individual to generate their own energy rather than depending on others. True love is about giving energy, not taking it. Do you choose to love your loved ones or drain their energy?Why We Hurt Those We Love
You care deeply for each other, yet you find communication leading to arguments and exhaustion. Why does this happen, even though love is present? Why do we harm those we cherish most?
The Energy Crisis in Relationships
Every person needs energy, which can come from love, attention, food, friendship, and more. These elements help us feel good and build our identities. As long as we believe this energy must come from others, we're destined for conflict because human energy is finite.
Childhood Patterns
From an early age, children learn behaviors to receive attention?"which is a form of energy. Whether it’s playing quietly or acting out, children find ways to draw energy from parents. This behavior often carries into adulthood.
The High of New Love
In relationships, falling in love initially brings an abundance of energy freely from your partner. This euphoria makes life seem brighter and more effortless. However, this energy is borrowed, and as the initial rush fades, we’re faced with generating our own again.
Conflict Arises
When the free flow of energy decreases, old childhood mechanisms take over. These are tactics we used to gain attention and energy when we were young. Common behaviors include acting like a victim, becoming aggressive, or withdrawing.
The Cycle of Energy Drain
When one partner resorts to these tactics, it depletes the other's energy, triggering their own mechanisms to replenish it. This cycle explains why we often hurt the ones we love?"the need for energy leads to conflict.
Breaking the Cycle
To prevent energy theft in relationships, we should engage with others only when our own energy levels are high. This way, we can give energy instead of taking it. It’s each person's responsibility to cultivate their own energy, rather than relying on others.
Generating Personal Energy
Connect with the universal energy source through activities that elevate your spirit?"such as enjoying nature, listening to music, meditating, or engaging in creative pursuits. Make a list of things that boost your energy.
Managing Conflict
If you find yourself in conflict, pause and focus on raising your energy through activities you enjoy. Wait until you're in a positive state before interacting with the other person. This approach is an act of love, ensuring that you're giving energy rather than taking it.
The Essence of Love
The key in relationships is not to rely on others for happiness, but to find joy within yourself and offer it to your loved ones freely. Loving another person is about sharing your energy with them.
Do you choose to love your loved ones or drain their energy?
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