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Title: Breaking the Hidden Contracts in RelationshipsSummary:
Often, there are unspoken contracts in our relationships that can unknowingly shape our emotions and experiences. These silent agreements, like "If you bring me flowers, I'll feel loved," can affect how we interact with others. Discover how to identify and break these hidden contracts for a more fulfilling life.
Keywords: goals, goal setting, motivation, success, living motivation, Jason E. Johns, Sanjo, hypnosis, achieving your goals
Article:
We all know the phrase, "If you'll ... then I'll ...," but have you ever considered the psychological contracts hidden within it? These hidden agreements often shape our interactions and emotions without us even realizing it.
Recently, a friend shared a story about her weekend with her husband. She had hoped for a gesture of love?"flowers and a dinner date?"to feel cherished. Instead, her husband chose to relax with the latest Harry Potter book. As you might guess, she felt rejected and unloved, while he was completely unaware of her expectations.
This scenario demonstrates how we unknowingly create conditions for feeling certain emotions, from childhood to adulthood. We often fail to communicate these expectations, leaving the other party oblivious. How can they fulfill needs they aren't even aware of?
Consider the unspoken agreements you're holding onto:
- "If you do ___, then I will feel ___."
- "If you don't do ___, then I will be ___."
For instance, I once witnessed a mother telling her son, "If you don't behave, no one will like you." Imagine the impact of such a statement on a child?"or even an adult.
The truth is, we can't control others or force them to meet our expectations. The only person we can control is ourselves. So, why not share these contracts with others? By doing so, you may find that your relationships improve, as the other person can now consciously strive to meet your needs.
Reflect on how often you say this to yourself: "If you ___, then I'll ___." Consider the impact these contracts have on your life. Do they enhance it or make it worse?
Instead of creating contracts that lead to unhappiness, focus on ones that uplift you. Imagine a contract like this: "If you are yourself and do no harm, then I'll appreciate you." Wouldn't that create a more positive outlook?
By removing these hidden contracts, you can practice acceptance?"embracing people for who they are. This acceptance fosters better relationships, reduces judgment, and shields you from emotional harm.
In freeing yourself from these contracts, you'll likely find an improved quality of life. Accept those around you as they are, and you'll open your heart to more fulfilling and authentic connections.
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