Under Their Thumb
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Under Their Thumb
Summary:
Many people feel as though they're not in control of their own lives. This article explores how relinquishing control often stems from external influences and how to regain personal agency.Regaining Control of Your Life
Some of my clients have felt as if others were steering their lives, leaving them feeling powerless. We identified specific situations where they experienced this loss of control and unearthed feelings of guilt and second-guessing?"clear indicators of surrendering personal power.
People can feel "out of control" for various reasons, such as burnout, stagnation, or trauma. However, a significant cause is unconsciously handing control to others. This happens when one party trusts another, only to have doubt and seeking approval replace their autonomy.
From early on, "parental voices" shape our beliefs, providing rules and authority figures that influence us. As adults, some people or influences may trigger these instincts, leading us to doubt ourselves and seek validation from others. By accepting this doubt, we start living by others' rules instead of our own.
Professional and Group Dynamics
In workplaces or groups where power dynamics are prevalent, some individuals ("A") can gain control by instilling doubt in others ("B"). Initially trusting "A," "B" starts seeing "A" as a figure of authority whose approval is necessary. Over time, "B" may grow resentful, confused about the cause of their frustration.
Breaking Free
Escaping these dynamics requires recognizing that the issue lies not in how others treat you but in your perception of that treatment. By detaching your emotions and ego, you can reclaim your autonomy. It's often more about seeking acceptance than actual control by others.
Preventing Loss of Control
To avoid falling into these patterns, examine which "parental voices" linger in your mind and replace them with new, evolving rules that reflect your beliefs. We often leave these outdated influences unchallenged for comfort, but they can lead us astray.
A Case Study
Consider a young man who, after college, felt directionless. With no family support, he sought acceptance wherever he could, even if it led him into trouble. After considerable effort, he started forging his own path. Such scenarios are common, affecting various groups, including those in distress or unhealthy relationships.
Empowering Yourself
The key to living independently is establishing your own guidelines for life. True acceptance comes from within; relying on others for validation is a perpetual cycle. Embrace self-acceptance, as ultimately, you are responsible for your decisions and fulfillment.
By replacing inherited triggers with personal beliefs, you empower yourself to live authentically, free from external control.
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