Why Advice Giving Is Not Advisable
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Why Giving Advice Isn’t Always Helpful
Summary:
Discover how offering empathy and empowerment can be more beneficial than giving advice to friends and loved ones.---
In our everyday interactions with family and friends, it’s common for problems to arise. In an attempt to be helpful, we often jump to giving advice. However, there are several reasons why this approach might not be the best.
The Pitfalls of Giving Advice:
1. Assumptive Listening:
We often assume we understand the problem without truly listening to the other person’s perspective. Instead of offering advice, we should focus on being attentive listeners.
2. Lack of Empathy:
By not fully empathizing with the person's situation, our advice might come off as dismissive or unsympathetic.
3. Self-Centered Credit:
When we give advice based on our experiences, we might unintentionally make the other person feel inadequate if our advice doesn’t work for them. It implies their failure rather than a mismatch of advice.
4. Unequal Interaction:
Giving advice can create a power imbalance, positioning us as the "expert" and possibly disregarding the other person’s own knowledge and insights.
5. Disempowerment:
Offering solutions can suggest that the person isn’t capable of finding their own answers, which can be discouraging.
6. Evaluative Over Supportive:
By evaluating their actions rather than encouraging self-reflection, we may overlook their efforts and lower their confidence.
Example of Ineffective Advice:
A: "Jolyn and I are having more arguments lately."
B: "I always thought you two weren’t compatible. Maybe you should break up." (Assuming and advising instead of listening)
A: "I’ve been busy with work, and she feels neglected."
B: "She doesn’t understand you. Break up with her. It could be a blessing." (Disempowering and advice-driven)
A Better Approach: Using Empathy and Questions
Instead of giving advice, try asking questions that help the other person explore their feelings and solutions:
A: "Jolyn and I are having more arguments lately."
B: "I’m sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk more about it?" (Showing empathy and encouraging discussion)
A: "I’ve been busy with work, and she feels neglected."
B: "Has your work always been this demanding?" (Encouraging reflection and understanding)
A: "No, it’s just the last two months with increased deadlines."
B: "That sounds stressful. How are you managing it all?" (Offering empathy and acknowledging effort)
A: "I need to make more time for Jolyn. Maybe I’ll ease up a bit and plan a date." (Encouraged to find their own solution)
B: "That sounds like a great plan. I wish you the best." (Supporting their decision)
By using empathy and empowerment, we help others find their own solutions, fostering growth and confidence.
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References:
- [Stress: The Silent Killer](http://www.succezz.com/StresstheSilentKiller.html)
- [How to Be Happy](http://www.succezz.com/How2BHappy.html)
- [7 Ways to Live Life to the Max](http://www.succezz.com/S2/7WaystoLiveLiftotheMax2.html)
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