Being an Emotional Victim
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Understanding Emotional Victimhood
Introduction
None of us like to view ourselves as victims, as it evokes images of powerlessness. Yet, it's surprising how often we fall into the trap of being emotional victims without realizing it. Through 35 years of counseling individuals, couples, families, and business partners, I've seen this occur repeatedly.
Recognizing Emotional Victimhood
We become emotional victims whenever we allow others to define our worth. This happens when we make approval, relationships, material possessions, or substances responsible for our happiness and self-worth. Blaming others for emotions such as fear, anger, or disappointment is another sign. By seeking external validation, we give away our power and feel controlled by others' choices.
Moving Towards Personal Empowerment
True empowerment comes from defining ourselves internally, through connection with our spiritual guidance. By sincerely seeking to understand our intrinsic worth and asking for spiritual insight, we receive the answers we need. Many don't realize how easily these insights can emerge?"whether as thoughts, images, or feelings?"when approached with a genuine desire to learn.
The Choice We Face
We always have two paths: seeking happiness, peace, and worth through external means, or finding these qualities within ourselves through spiritual connection and self-love. Relying on others for validation forces us into controlling behaviors. When they don't meet our expectations, we feel victimized by their actions.
A Case Study: Don and Joyce
Consider Don and Joyce, who struggle over parenting styles. Joyce is authoritarian, while Don is more permissive. When frustrated, Joyce yells, and Don listens, hoping she’ll reciprocate. However, Joyce rarely does.
In counseling, Don revealed he listens in hopes of explaining and gaining her approval. Yet, this seldom works, and he feels victimized by her anger. His need for approval traps him in this dynamic.
Don could set boundaries to prevent being yelled at, requiring respectful communication. However, as long as he seeks validation from Joyce, he remains a victim. By connecting with his Higher Power for self-worth, Don could shift from victimhood to empowerment.
Conclusion
Taking responsibility for our own sense of worth through spiritual connection frees us from victimhood, leading to true personal power. Instead of giving others the job of defining our value, we can reclaim control and live more empowered lives.
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