Mr. Mafioso Does Emotional Intelligence
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Mr. Mafioso and Emotional Intelligence
Title:
Mr. Mafioso and Emotional Intelligence
Summary:
I love Mr. Mafioso on AskMen. He writes, "Look, college boy, there are certain lessons that all the books in the world couldn't teach you."
This resonates with me. I graduated from a rural Minnesota college, known for its academic rigor. It's a place that produces doctors and lawyers, but not necessarily wealthy ones. It's more about idealists aiming to save the world, like the kind Mr. Mafioso refers to?"a college girl who must learn life's real lessons and toughen up, because while one can't save the world, one can certainly lose a job.
Keywords:
emotional intelligence, success, self-sabotage, failure, smart choices, coaching, general interest, advice
Article Body:
I love reading Mr. Mafioso on AskMen. He writes, “Look, college boy, there are certain lessons that all the books in the world couldn't teach you.”
This really hits home for me. I came out of college as a quintessential college girl. I attended a very academic and intellectual college in rural Minnesota. How academic? Well, more students pass the MCAT from this school than any other in the country. It produces doctors and lawyers, usually those working in under-resourced areas or teaching, rather than getting rich.
The school attracts its fair share of idealists?"people whose jobs are means to an end: saving the world. This is the college boy Mr. M. talks about, and the college girl who needs to put on her Big Girl Panties. While you can't save the world, you can certainly lose your job.
Stepping out of that ivory tower into my first job, reality hit hard. Determined to be honest and brave, I ended up with more work than I bargained for and the worst equipment, often feeling isolated. I had to become street smart. You know, like when someone in the office seems to get ahead despite limited skills? They probably have street smarts?"they read between the lines, know when to act, and can always land on their feet.
That's Emotional Intelligence, what Mr. Mafioso calls "street lessons."
He starts with a hard truth: The world isn't fair. It doesn't care about your bruised feelings. We're all trying to survive, and the street shows no mercy.
I've seen clients struggle with this reality many times. They have to let go of how they wish the world was and start dealing with how it really is. With coaching, they learn not to naively hand others the tools to hurt them.
Mr. Mafioso explains: life is unpredictable. You can be on top one day and facing challenges the next, from personal issues to unexpected setbacks.
Here are his rules, expressed through Emotional Intelligence:
1. Keep Your Guard Up.
Trust others, but verify. It's failing to see the "otherwise" that gets us into trouble.
2. Avoid Arguments.
Wait until the dust settles to see the outcome. I learned from my college readings not to rush in where fools do.
3. Meet Only When Necessary.
Real discussions have a purpose. Everyone but your MBA boss knows this.
4. Know People.
Connections bring opportunities, but be cautious about what you share.
5. Don’t Be Too Proud to Retreat.
While idealists struggle with backing down, sometimes retreating is strategic. Discretion often trumps bravado.
Mr. Mafioso concludes with a reminder that life is a continuous learning process. It's best to learn early on and stay alert to reduce unfair surprises.
Key Points on Teaching Emotional Intelligence:
1. You're always teaching it, so aim to teach GOOD Emotional Intelligence.
2. Emotional Intelligence isn't learned from books?"seek coaching.
3. Allow children to learn lessons themselves unless it's an emergency.
4. Be proactive in creating learning opportunities under your guidance.
5. Connect the dots for students about what they're learning.
Making concepts clear, like empathy, helps demystify life's emotional challenges. For instance, give children a portion of their allowance at once to teach financial stewardship and help them understand the consequences when it runs out.
Returning to my client, she struggles with her principles versus self-preservation. She believes standing up for herself goes against her values.
I tell her, “Look, college girl, just put on your Big Girl Panties,” by which I mean develop stress tolerance, creativity, flexibility, resilience, and interpersonal skills?"all key components of Emotional Intelligence.
It helps keep your head on a swivel.
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