The Habit of Identity
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The Habit of Identity
Summary:
In an intriguing experiment, students were asked to take a lemon home and familiarize themselves with it. Three days later, they could easily identify "their" lemon from a group of similar ones. This experiment raises questions about love, bonding, and whether we simply get used to other people, pets, or objects.---
In a well-known study, students were given a lemon to take home and bond with. After three days, they successfully identified "their" lemon from a collection of similar lemons. This phenomenon prompts us to ponder: Is this the essence of love, bonding, or connection? Do we merely grow accustomed to people, pets, or things?
For humans, habit formation is instinctive. We adjust ourselves and our surroundings to maximize comfort and well-being, and these adjustments become habits. Habits minimize the need for constant experimentation and risk-taking. The more comfortable we are, the better we function and extend our survival.
In reality, when we acclimate to something or someone, we are getting used to ourselves. In the objects of our habits, we see reflections of our past efforts. They encapsulate our actions, intentions, and emotions. They are mirrors reflecting the part of us that created the habit. This is why we feel comfortable: we recognize ourselves in these familiar patterns.
This leads us to often confuse habits with identity. When asked about their identity, most people describe their habits: their jobs, relationships, pets, hobbies, or possessions. However, these are not true indicators of identity. Removing them doesn’t alter our core self; they simply provide comfort. They don’t define who we are at the deepest level.
Yet, this simple illusion is what ties people together. A mother, for example, may feel her children are part of her identity because their presence is integral to her well-being. Any threat to them feels like a threat to herself, evoking strong protective reactions.
While it’s true that her children are superficially part of her identity, their removal doesn't fundamentally change her core self. Mothers continue living when faced with loss, their essential identity intact.
So, what is this core identity? It’s our personality?"a complex, dynamic pattern of reactions to our environment. Like the brain or the soul, it is hard to define but undeniably present. It drives and restrains us. It’s flexible, adapting in countless ways, giving us a sense of identity through its constancy and evolution.
When a personality becomes so rigid that it cannot adapt to changing circumstances, it is considered disordered. In such cases, habits replace identity. These individuals derive their identity exclusively from their surroundings, leaving their inner world vacated, their true self just a shadow.
Such individuals struggle with love and life. Loving others requires self-love, which is impossible without a grounded self. Over time, their inability to adapt hampers their ability to truly live. Life is about striving and achieving varied goals. In essence, life is change, and those who cannot change cannot truly live.
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